This is a post I have wanted to put into words and share for a long time now. It is very important to me and I know to many other people as well so I hope this gives them a voice too. This is about respecting others and their privacy. There is a saying that it’s easier to beg forgiveness than ask permission but I feel that isn’t or shouldn’t be the case with how photos are shared. Each time I teach my DSLR Camera Essentials course I remind the attendees of this and I hope to spread this message. When we take photos and they include other people, having that photo in our possession does NOT automatically give us permission to use it and share as we like. These are all photos, not just professional or DSLR photos – so many people rely solely on their phone cameras now.
We must respect the ones in the photo. Respect is about showing consideration. It’s about being mindful of other’s privacy. Not everyone has the same level of comfort or privacy or wants their lives, children, home, etc displayed for other’s viewing. It might not seem like much of an issue especially to those who are fairly open with their life. Remember that just because some of us choose to participate on social media doesn’t mean everyone does or even to the same level. And whether someone will see the photo or not or even know it’s been shared doesn’t make it okay. It’s not just posting on social media but even texting and emailing photos to others. Photos and videos can be spread far + wide in a matter of seconds. Respect others. They deserve that!
We need to consider and ask the boundaries of even our loved ones that we are closest to on this matter as they may feel very differently. Allow them to choose what they feel is okay. They will have reasons for their level of comfort and we must respect that and protect them in the way they ask. We want to build trust not break it. This also gives us the freedom to share with others what our preference is for photo sharing.
This paragraph was written by a wonderful friend, sharing her feelings on this topic as a mother, “There are times as a mother that I just have this inner twinge that tells me “maybe not for the world to see” when I am about to post a pic of my child. We really love to share with friends and family how lovely our little beings are and just how proud we are of them. However, I have often wondered if I have considered enough that they too are little people, who are trusting these decisions to us for this time of their life. I don’t think that there is a guideline from one mother to another on what is appropriate to post of our children or not. But…I hope to think that I always have the best interests of my children at the forefront and that is what spurs me to post appropriately on my little peoples behalf. I have been in frequent conversations with other mothers and friends who share the same concern when others share pictures of their children on social media with liberty. For the safety of our children, their dignity and integrity…I feel strongly that others should seek permission before posting snaps of little ones. We are their advocates. We need to help each other in this role. Thanking you in advance for this proper gesture of courtesy. Just ask. It’s what we teach our children all day long.”
Continue to capture the special, ordinary, incredible moments in your life and share them with others respectfully! Photos are so valuable and keep memories alive. Please just take the time to ask permission before sharing when it includes someone else. Always be courteous in this. I realize it takes a little effort but a request for permission will be appreciated. And then respect the answer, whatever it is.
I’d love to hear your thoughts too so please feel free to leave a comment below.